Posted by: Daisy | June 7, 2009

45 Life Lessons

I got this in my email recently and thought it was absolutely wonderful. I suppose you can say I’m in the 7%.
– Daisy


Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland , Ohio

“To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me… It is the most-requested column I’ve ever written. My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:

1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone…
4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first pay check.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.
12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don’t worry; God never blinks.
16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
19. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words ’In five years, will this matter?’
27. Always choose life.
28. Forgive everyone everything.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
33. Believe in miracles.
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.
35. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
36. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood.
38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.
41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
42. The best is yet to come.
43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
44. Yield.
45. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.

Its estimated 93% won’t forward this. If you are one of the 7% who will, forward this with the title I’m in the 7%.



  1. Hiya
    came visiting from LOM and found this which is now on my site so I am in the 7% too!!

    Well, I’m glad! I loved the list and I’m glad you liked it too. – Daisy

  2. Very cool list! Don’t know if I’m in the 7% because I hardly ever forward anything. Hmmm… May have to consider it. 😉

    I don’t believe forwarding or posting it is nearly as important and appreciating it. I just knew you’d like it, Mrs. V. – Daisy

  3. Daisy,

    As a writer of aphorisms, I feel challenged by this post. More than that, I feel threatened. How many lists of 45 are floating around? How can I discourage the circulation of such lists? Okay, here’s what I’ll do. I will come up with a list of 46 — all new, all 20 words or less, by 6PM EDT today — and I will post them as a comment right here. Maybe that will put an end to these lists.


    ha ha ha.. who would have thought? – Daisy

  4. Daisy,

    Here are “46 Thoughts on This and That” taken straight from my work file, never before posted anywhere. They are all yours — to use or ignore, provided only that you attribute to Robert Brault. Smiles, rb

    1. Reward is no part of the definition of duty.

    2. Love is the greatest touch-up artist of all.

    3. Sometimes you must fail small to achieve large.

    4. Set your hopes for the young no higher than your example.

    5. The young do not follow our preachings; they follow us.

    6. Delay never made a kind impulse any kinder.

    7. No child is yet lost for whom a light is kept burning.

    8. A child seldom needs a good talking to as a good listening to.

    9. To realize a dream, you must first make it your expectation.

    10. As you wait for better days, don’t forget to enjoy today — in case they’ve already started.

    11. You must question a code of ethics that never impedes your progress.

    12. When life takes the wind out of your sails, it is to test you at the oars.

    13. On the road from thought to action, words are the traffic congestion.

    14. Love may be blind, but this I’ll state — it’s eagle-eyed compared to hate.

    15 Most people are better than we judge, for we do not know the temptations they have overcome.

    16. The hardest selfishness to uproot is that concealed in the guise of minding our own business.

    17. We are never guided along a surer path than when we follow a kind impulse.

    18. What you discover about people who have all that life offers is that they didn’t wait for it to be offered.

    19. If animals could talk, the world would lose its best listeners.

    20. When you speak, always speak the truth. But don’t always speak.

    21. The Lord gives us friends to push us to our potential — and enemies to push us beyond it.

    22. To fail is merely to discover a task that takes more than one effort.

    23. For every couple brought together by Fate, another is brought together by Mischief.

    24. Most marriages can survive “better or worse.” The tester is all the years of “exactly the same.”

    25. Of all the disguises of ignorance, cleverness is the most common,

    26. New ideas seldom pop into your head through your mouth.

    27. It is not the wealthy who shape the world but they who have no price.

    28. The road to success is wherever people need another road.

    29. Some say that true love is a mirage; seek it anyway, for all else is surely desert.

    30. The ultimate folly is to think that something crucial to your welfare is being taken care of for you.

    31. History is 99% the achievement of people who never made history.

    32. The chief news story of any day is that 99% of the world’s population has gone honestly about its business.

    33. The friend you lie for has a liar for a friend.

    34. Genius is the knack of being inspired by common sense.

    35. Every advance in civilzation started with a stupid question.

    36. The first test of a good idea is that somebody thinks it foolish.

    37. There is no bond forged between men like the bond between two women who have shared a good cry.

    38. A rule that cannot be bent will certainly be broken.

    39. You’d think fish would learn not to gulp their food.

    40. A sense of entitlement is an entitlement to a permanent sense of dissatisfaction.

    41. A bedtime snack can cause nightmares — monsters that go burp in the night.

    42. A failed job interview is most often a failure of the interviewer.

    43. If animal intelligence were scored like figure skating, human beings would have the high score that’s thrown out.

    44. Where you find quality, you will find a craftsman, not a quality-control expert.

    45. Better to think ourselves foolish than wise, for no man is either who thinks he is.

    46. The surest sign that the goal is near is that offers of help begin to appear.

    — Robert Brault

    OH WOW! I’m so honoured. I have thought for a whole minute about what to do with this list – should I repost it? Should I quote it? What to do, what to do? I don’t want it ‘buried’ in the comments?!! Again, awesome good stuff and I’ve decided that I will simply take a phrase here and there, and write a post about it (with reference to you of course!). I’m so lucky to have you here. 🙂 – Daisy

  5. I love these kinds of lists, that really make you stop and take stock.
    I have another one that is on my calendar for this month: Life is simple, it’s just not easy. x

    Oh yes! I think it isn’t always easy, but sometimes, I think it *can* be if you just choose to enjoy all the little things. – Daisy

  6. […] 18 09 2009 A while back, I was so stunned when Robert Brault took one of my posts on 45 life lessons, turned around and felt challenged to write 46 new thoughts on this and […]

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